How to Become More Dominant Right Now – Jack Murphy’s Pocket Guide to Dominance

How to be more dominant?

Women across the continent fantasize about being sexually dominated. A recent study shows nearly 65% of women of all ages admit to having fantasies of being dominated.

Another 52% of them want to be tied up, and 36% of them fantasize about being spanked.

(I guess that answers the question, “do women like rough sex?”)

Think about that for a second.

Two out of every three women admit to fantasies of being dominated.

Two out of every three women you see on the street have deep desires of being taken roughly in bed and submitting to a worthy man.

Yes, 2/3 of women want to be submissive.

Half of them want to be tied up!

And this is just what they will admit to in a survey. I’m sure in truth those percentages are actually much higher.

If any of you were harboring the notion that not all women are “like that” or only freaks want to be submissive – I hope these numbers get the smoke out of your eyes and allow you to see women’s true nature:

Women love to be dominated

Females want to be submissive

They want you to be aware of and know how to do this instinctively.

Because, unfortunately, dominance cannot be solicited.

If she is requesting more dominance in bed, you’re in trouble. The question reveals her mind has wandered and been left wondering, where is the real man to turn me into his fuck toy?

Where is the man who puts his desires above mine, and in turn, pleases us both?

Where is the man who will give me confidence via his leadership?

Wives are asking, “how to make my husband dominate me?”

Girlfriends are asking, “how to make my boyfriend dominate me?”

Women are craving it, searching for it, all because men aren’t giving it to them.

Instead, we train men to be pussies.

With just a few google searches,” we can read how society, culture and the environment are working together to feminize men and boys. Culture teaches them to do the exact opposite of what turns women on as they’re taught to behave like girls.

The current climate of ‘everyone’s a rapist,’ consent classes, and the motto, “Above All Be Nice” – that’s not helping men get laid. Nor is devaluing male characteristics like aggression or risk-taking. There’s nothing wrong with being dominant. Especially when that’s what women want.

No one teaches our boys and men how to succeed in relationships – sexual or otherwise.

Instead, we obscure the true nature of women’s desire, and men are left fumbling with a dead end roadmap. A map women created, ironically, and handed it down through mothers, sisters, teachers: be yourself. Be nice. Women love nice guys. Don’t worry, someone will love you for who you are!

Rubbish.

Even 50 Shades of Grey didn’t end the illusion once and for all. Our programming can’t be undone with one movie. When you look at the corn-fed girl from Nebraska, or the innocent looking nerdy girl – odds are they want you to dominate the shit out of them. Even the most ardent feminist yearns to be dominated sexually. You just need the tools.

You’re a bear that’s been taught to be a bunny rabbit.

You probably found this page because you asked, “how can I become more dominant?” Or maybe by typing, “how to be more dominant in the bedroom?”

Well, you’ve found the right place, my friend. I’m here to help.

What we’re doing here is a version of cognitive behavioral therapy. We are reprogramming ourselves, installing a new response behavior after identifying a source of major dissonance.

We’re increasing awareness of the problem: only bad girls want to be dominated / men aren’t taught how.

And teaching ourselves the replacement thoughts and skills: chicks are dying to be dominated / men can and shall dominate them.

Next time you see a cute girl, maybe a girl next door type – think to yourself: that chick is one of the 65% secretly submissive women out there. She is just dying to be dominated by a man. Use that as motivation. Discard the idea of nice girls wanting nice boys, it’s just not true. Dominance is what they want, let’s give it to them.

However, being dominant isn’t a magic bullet. It alone is not going optimize your relationships. It is yet another tool a man must develop and refine to become self-actualized and maximize his potential.

We know that being fit, having Game, and improving your lifestyle are the essentials.

[READ: The Jack Murphy Basics]

But we want to build beyond that.

First, I showed you a moral framework for sexual health, illustrating a judgment-free yet morals-based guide to honesty and healthy sexual relationships.

Next, I gave you a plan for “Red Pill in Love,” showing you how to maximize your upside and minimize your downside when creating long-term love relationships. I even taught you love’s cycles and danger points, including how to develop it along the way.

Now, I’m going to introduce the idea of dominance, in and out of the bedroom.

What I’m about to give you is a Pocket Guide to Increasing Dominance. This is a short list of quick-hitting, easily accessible test behaviors you can use to gauge your comfort with being dominant and she in being submissive.

Give these a try and see how you both react.

Do you feel more comfortable?

Do you have more confidence?

Maybe a little more energy?

How does she react? Is she compliant? Did she bat her eyelashes? What did she say? Does it get easier the more you do it? Use this Pocket Guide as a test-run.

In time I will write more about the fundamental theories and broader application of dominance, both in sexual relationships and in general – but for now, give these tips a shot and report back. Let me know what works in the comment sections.

Without further ado:

Jack Murphy’s Pocket Guide to Dominance In and Out of the Bedroom

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Out of the bedroom…

Be the leader, have a plan, handle business

Women adore men who lead them. Even women who intellectually hate the idea of male dominance respond well in person to male leadership. Women are naturally submissive. They are also indecisive. They need a man to take charge.

An old joke explains: A woman is on death row. The guard asks “what would you like to eat for your last meal?” The woman pauses a moment, looks up and says, “I dunno, what do you want to eat?”

First dates, quick dinners – whatever – you better be the one making the plans. Never ask what she wants to do. If she asks days before your date what the plan is, say ‘I don’t know yet, but I’ll have one.’

Then make sure you have one. You’ve set her up to anticipate your leadership. Follow through.

This leadership takes many forms. It started with you asking her out, it continues with you having a plan for the date. While on that date, there are a few high leverage moments where you can really establish the frame and set yourself apart even if you do a standard dinner or drinks.

When you arrive – talk to the hostess. Arrange for a table. Is it not good enough? Firmly but politely ask for a different one. Take charge. Ideally, you’ll take her to a place that knows you well, someplace where you will get great service and a predictable experience. But until then, make good with what you can do. Get the good table.

While waiting to order, ask her what she wants. Find out exactly. Then when the waitress comes, order for both of you.

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Her mind will be blown.

You will likely blow her mind with that. It’s simple but effective. When I ordered for @the_red_hen on our first date, she was impressed and turned on immediately. It arouses a woman to see you take charge while also taking care of her. She got what she wanted to eat, and she got a dose of dominance to turn her on.

Because lets be real, the date is foreplay with the goal of sex later, whether that night or the next. The dominance you wish to exert in the bedroom starts in your non-sexual interactions.

Each act of compliance on her part increases her investment in you and the date/relationship.

Ordering her food now makes ordering her to lick your balls later just that much easier.

And in the bedroom…

You’ve worked your way through the date showing your dominant frame naturally as the night progressed. The setting is established, you’re ready to dominate her in the bedroom. But of course, you need her consent. But how does a dominant male get consent without losing frame?

“Are you ready to get fucked?”

Consent is real. You must have the consent of your woman before you have sex with her. But asking her for affirmative consent like they teach in colleges will dry her pussy up quickly. If you ask her, “can I have sex with you?” you might get it that time, but odds are you won’t get it the next. It submits you to her desires and permission. This is the opposite of what she wants.

Instead of requesting permission, ask her if she is ready. “Are you ready to get fucked?” is my all-time number one go-to line. It has never failed me. Why?

  • “Are you ready to get fucked?” sets the tone perfectly.
  • It demonstrates you have a plan in the bedroom, you are confident in your ability, and you assume she has the desire.
  • And you are assuming the sale.

In reality, you’re not asking her if she is ready, you’re asking her: how badly do you want me?

It is aggressive, hungry, and enticing. It’s dominating.

You’re in charge of yourself, her, and the situation (in that order).

Talk to her while she goes down on you

This one is a little more advanced, but its one guys in relationships can certainly put to use right away. When she goes down on you, and she should be going down on you all the time, talk to her:

  • “You are doing such a great job.”
  • “Man this is so hot.”
  • “I love what you’re doing to me.”

But don’t say, “oh my god that’s amazing, that’s the best head I’ve ever got, ummmhnngg.” No.

This is about you being in control, even when she is sucking your dick. Remain calm. Talk to her as she blows it, it is more important than getting your dick wet.

The very act of her blowing you is submissive. But when you add the talking, it demonstrates how controlled you are. It shows her that even while you’re getting head, you can still mold her the way you want.

Expert level tip: The blow job becomes ritualized. We refer to the act of her going down on me as “home.” While she goes down on me, I use the time to review her behavior and coach her towards more of the behaviors I like. She is fixating on my dick, and I’m deepening my dominance. I say things like, “You love sucking that dick don’t you?” “Sucking my dick makes you feel safe and taken care of.” “You’re being a good girl, I love it when you’re a good girl.” “Keep being such a good girl for me and you’ll get more of your reward.” “Sucking my dick is your prize for being good.”

Imagine if you could get your girl to see giving you a blow job as her REWARD for being good

That’s the next level guys.

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The King Position / “Come be my Queen”

From blow job hypnosis to cuddling, dominance shines through in all situations. A quick and easy way to add dominance to your life beyond sex is to only cuddle in this one position, the king position.

Yes, cuddling is part of the self-actualized male’s arsenal, and I love to do it all the time. It is a great way to solidify your dominance of her physically and to chill out, satisfied, soaking it all in.

After a thorough session, you give her the care she craves by letting her cuddle up to your body. It allows the dominance to season while she inhales your pheromones. And as she relaxes and bathes in the oxytocin flooding her system, cuddling strengthens your position in her mind and body. Double down on the hormonal effect by allowing her to snuggle on you. Cuddling after sex can actually increase your intimacy and your dominance.

But – only in one position: The King Position – where you lay on your back and she snuggles under your arm, her head on your chest/shoulder, arm and leg wrapped over/around you.

Say, “come be my queen,” and motion for her to join you. You are dominant by position, she submissive by being smaller and snuggling up to you. And by using the word “Queen” you’re putting her second to you, the King. You’ve elevated her to royal status, but men, you’re still the fucking KING.

Have her scratch your chest and rub your nuts from this position for extra measure.

WRAP UP

I can’t teach you everything about dominance in one blog post. Over time, I will write more on day-to-day dominance as well as how to be more so in the bedroom.

Dominance is not something you turn on and off. If you’re not naturally dominant, it will take time to adopt the proper mindset and refine how it expresses itself. Once it takes hold, it will be natural and effortless, something you don’t even think about. What seemed crazy once before will now become the new normal.

Today, I live with a woman in a full time dominant/submissive relationship and it seems perfectly normal to me. Yet ten years ago, I would have thought it insane. I had to learn baby steps back when I started, and the tips given in this article are meant to be just a teaser for you and your girl. Try them out, see what happens, and report back in the comments. They are not steps towards a full-time BDSM relationship like mine, but rather a cure for the feminist indoctrination young men and boys receive from birth. This is counter-programming meant to help you find your true self as an individualist man in today’s society.

The take away I want you to get from this article is that underlying each of my suggestions is the notion of thoughtful stewardship.

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Your job is to lead her to better places. Teach her new things. Show her new ways of thinking, acting, and fucking. Literally, take her hand and show her the way. As a benevolent dictator, you’re not making uninformed unilateral decisions. You are casually learning the facts and then acting on them in a dominant way. Being dominant doesn’t mean being rude, demanding or angry.

Rather, this is an elegant way you can control her, the situation and the experience such that everyone is better fulfilled. It speaks to the fundamental nature of our roles as humans: men as leaders and women as complements. Your being dominant in day-to-day activities will make her feel safe, it will impress her, and it will solidify your position as the leader in the relationship.

And when dominant with her in the bedroom you will increase your confidence, enhance your connection and blow your sex right through the roof.

So, get started and let me know how it goes.

What did I miss? What other tips have you learned along the way? Tell me what works for you and what doesn’t? Let us know in the comments –

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49 comments… add one
  • Timo Fischer Dec 9, 2015 @ 2:33

    This is exactly what young men like me need right now. I am glad that you will write more about this topic to be quite frank I can’t wait to read more about it.

    • Jack Murphy Dec 9, 2015 @ 8:43

      Thanks, Timo. I keep hearing the same thing from guys in email. One of the number one questions asked of me is how can I be more dominant with my girlfriend or on dates.

      Today, women are more masculinized than ever. Men are being feminized. And when you put those two facts together, the entire dating market is thrown for a loop.

      Happy successful relationships depend on polarity NOT on “sameness.”

      I’ll keep posting on dominance and masculinity, you keep reading!

  • Stephanie Dec 9, 2015 @ 11:11

    This brilliantly written article is perfect and must be read by Everyone…. men and women. As a woman, I can validate that you are absolutely correct in stating that women desire to be dominated and submissive. Some women may deny this fact, but deep down she wants it. Some women haven’t the slightest clue that this submissive nature is inside them. But it is. It’s in all of us… and we desperately need our men to grab a very stern hold over it. And take Charge. I would Love to read more on this topic from you!!! Maybe consider writing about how men should treat their submissive women once they surrender their trust. It Is Imperative for men to know how to handle this level of responsibility. Thank you so much, Mr. Murphy, for writing this article!!!!

    • Jack Murphy Dec 9, 2015 @ 12:15

      Thank you Stephanie.

      Women are being taught today they shouldn’t crave a man’s dominance. It is creating a dissonance in them which they can not identify, lest it contradict their feminist brainwashing.

      Its our job as men to help them break through and see the light.

      I’m not saying everyone should be as deep into it as I am, hardly.

      I am suggesting, however, all men and their women will benefit from some of these basics I point out in the article.

      I will definitely be writing about trust in the future. Stay tuned!

    • Chris Feb 4, 2017 @ 20:16

      Stephanie, good to hear agreement on Jack’s concepts from a woman. Nice.
      Groovy.

  • Dman Dec 9, 2015 @ 15:19

    All women respond to dominance. I truly believe the number is 100%. The pre-requisite to demonstrating dominance is for the woman to truly trust you and be comfortable with you. Deep down women know a man can kill them or hurt them badly, so for them to truly let go, they need to know that he has her interest and well being in his mind.

    The king position I think works on everyone. Not all women like to be spanked, but pretty sure all women like to be choked. You have to try different things and see how she responds. Tying girls up is also a good thing to do and a real indicator of trust.

    The dominance Jack writes about is what I think of as conventional dominance. I think as things progress deeper into the realm of real BDSM, the level of responsibility for the man increases. With BDSM, I think, you actually need to get sexual arousal from the acts (both dom and sub) for it to truly “work.”

    You can tell Jack knows exactly what he’s talking about. Great article for those seeking to take it to the next level both sexually and in terms of honest male/female relationships.

    • Jack Murphy Dec 9, 2015 @ 15:27

      Spot on.

      I am writing about day-to-day dominance, or “thoughtful stewardship” as I put it. I’m not trying to convert anyone into a full time BDSM lifestyle – just trying to add the frame of dominance to your tool box.

      Little things can go a long way:
      Ordering dinner/drinks
      Managing reservations/hostess
      Having a plan
      Taking charge sexually
      etc.

      Little things add up, to create a symbiotic relationship with polarity.

      Hope you guys can take a few tidbits and apply them with success.

      Thanks for the comment, Dman – always right on point!

  • Vincent LaRosa Dec 9, 2015 @ 18:31

    Great article, Jack. And so true – being Dominant does not mean being a rude, callous, doucher – but, as you so aptly put – leading, confidently and boldly, through/with thoughtful stewardship – with respect, empathy, and trust. (as Dman notes, in his comment, tying up someone takes trust). Woman like a nice guy AND the wild animal – all wrapped up into one quiet storm of a man. Something seemingly as simple as having a plan for the evening with your woman – amazing what it does for turning her on and keeping her turned on. Women dislike (dare I say, despise) a man with no plan and no confidence. Dman, you’re so very correct. I have yet to meet a woman that does not like to be choked. I had a request from a women once – “choke me and slap my face”. The face slapping caught me off guard.

    • Jack Murphy Dec 9, 2015 @ 20:14

      Exactly. The thoughtful stewardship theme will carry forward. Terms like empathy and trust will be discussed from a masculine oriented perspective.

      One of the complaints I’ve heard regularly from women over the years is that men don’t take charge or have a plan.

      We’re gonna set ourselves apart this way.

  • Jack Murphy Dec 11, 2015 @ 7:55

    Being dominant isn’t about being a dick or acting unilaterally.

    It’s about making informed decisions and leading the way. Thoughtful stewardship.

    Otherwise you’re just an asshole.

    • Aaron Dec 11, 2015 @ 20:54

      I didn’t have a very strong father. Growing up I spent much of my free time around retired soldiers and tradesmen. I witnessed and lived the two extremes of masculine energies, from weakling to tyrant. Great blogs like yours and others are helping me to hone in on what is optimum.

      • Jack Murphy Dec 12, 2015 @ 9:12

        Glad you found the site. We’re all trying to hone in on what works. Some guys learn about dominance or being ‘alpha’ and go all ape shit and alienate themselves by acting like a dick. I’m trying to teach thoughtful leadership. Women submitting to a worthy man is natural and effortless, so long as your dominance is authentic and exhibits empathy.

  • Oliver Maerk Dec 20, 2015 @ 16:09

    http://freedompowerandwealth.com
    That post is very important for men of our days. It gives them some insight into the female reality and destroys a few illusions, which are very harmful for men.

    • Jack Murphy Dec 20, 2015 @ 16:29

      Thank you, I think so too. Spreading the real truth to men is what we’re trying to do here.

  • Way of The Olympian Dec 22, 2015 @ 13:49

    Jack I enjoyed this article. I spent 3 years in a relationship where I let the girl I was with control my actions. Of course this made me miserable.

    It wasn’t until I lost myself and got out of that relationship that my life began to improve.

    Now I am with a girl that respects me. What I say goes and I guide her. Dominance comes naturally as I practice it in everything I do.

    In my relationship as well as outside of it in day to day life.

    For anyone who reads this comment let me just say Jack is spot on. Being dominant is the only way to have a great and fulfilling life and relationship. It will take time, but believe me it is worth it.

    Regards,
    Dylan

    • Jack Murphy Dec 23, 2015 @ 13:49

      Thanks for the comment. Glad to see you’re finding success with this approach!

  • Carlos Calderón Dec 23, 2015 @ 12:33

    Congratulations for this brilliant article. I wish I had the opportunity to read these dominance tips in my late teens/early twenties. Nowadays these tips are a great reminder about my masculine nature.

  • Nick Dec 31, 2015 @ 1:35

    Wow, great post Jack! It’s nice to see someone putting out actionable advice with examples on the subject now that Mike doesn’t write about it as often. If you put up a donate button/release an ebook I’d be happy to send some thanks your way.

    The thought of ordering for a date scares the shit out of me so it looks like I’ve got a new item on my to-do list this weekend.

    • Jack Murphy Dec 31, 2015 @ 8:53

      Thanks, Nick, I appreciate it.

      Book is coming in late 2016, count on it!

      Let me know how ordering for your date goes, its a lot easier than it sounds once you actually find out what she wants. This way you’re leading the way and she gets exactly her desires.

      And if the waiter asks questions about how she would like it cooked or what sides or whatever, just look at her and nod and give her the go ahead to answer him directly.

      We’re not trying to be less efficient here.

      RE: Mike and Dominance – yep, Mike definitely wrote a lot of stuff on it in the past, but I think he and I have different angles, so hopefully it will be fresh. Mike and I came up on this stuff together over the years, trading stories and swapping tips as we evolved. Its natural for us to have some overlap but each with our own flavor.

      Thanks for reading man, stick around in the comments, its great to have you!

      Jack

      • Nick Jan 13, 2016 @ 11:46

        Thanks for the extra advice, really eased my mind. Everything went smoothly and it definitely set the tone for the night. Looking forward to more tips, these were gold!

        • Jack Murphy Jan 13, 2016 @ 11:53

          Awesome, man. My pleasure. Be sure to check the new section “Just the Tip” for more tips on game, frame and dominance. Thanks again!

  • LaineeTheCat Wallace Feb 10, 2016 @ 11:35

    I thank God for you guys. Remember, God wasn’t mad at Eve when she got into trouble with the Snake; he asked Adam, “Where were you?” She stepped out of place because he wasn’t there to keep her in line. His stewardship was missing.
    You guys give me hope for the next generation.

  • Christina Apr 3, 2017 @ 14:57

    Dman, with all do respect, I’d like to add my two cents for any future viewers. I can’t say that every woman likes getting choked. I can say, as a woman, I don’t like getting choked. Spanking, I’m all for. Paddles, crops, wooden spoon, a man’s bare hands, though different in how they sting I still enjoy them. But choking is a big NO for me. I’m glad you stated that both has to be sexual attracted to the act. Best thing in a D/s relationship is good communication.

    • Jack Murphy Apr 3, 2017 @ 20:07

      Sometimes choking just means a little hand on the throat.

      Communication is the cornerstone to the whole thing, which is why this is an evolved way of living. Most people can’t communicate to each other about basic needs much less express empathy and understanding while being vulnerable. Thanks for the comment and welcome to the site.

  • Soulshine May 10, 2017 @ 23:38

    I’m a female reading this article looking for Advice to make my boyfriend of 5 years more dominate.. He’s a very nice sweet guy.. I’ve mentioned dom/sub to him a couple of times .. He would try for a couple of days then it seemed like he has forgotten about it or he says that I’m trying to change him. I love him so much but I just want him to take charge !

    • Jack Murphy Feb 11, 2018 @ 10:00

      I hear this a lot. Women find my site searching for ways to help their boyfriends become more dominant. This is a common theme today. I hope he was able to learn something from this article and apply it to your relationship. Did things work out?

  • jontycampbell Jun 10, 2017 @ 19:53

    Being dominant, not domineering.

  • Jitendra Kulkarni Aug 1, 2017 @ 21:20

    Truly priceless insight. In sex ed classes this is what should be taught

    • Jack Murphy Aug 2, 2017 @ 11:56

      Ha! Thank you for reading. If we taught all boys this stuff, the world would be a much happier place.

      • SUB Angel Mar 6, 2018 @ 2:18

        😌👄

  • Brad Nov 27, 2017 @ 22:16

    This article is a breath of fresh air for me!

    Recently dated (tried too) a beautiful woman with a PhD in Psychology. After a few labored months of trying to get close to her she came to me for support after learning that a guy that she had been dating for about a month (this is important) had deceived her. He told her he was still in love with his wife. She was unclear about weather or not he was actually divorced. I was a little pissed rather than supportive. Why? Because about a month earlier I told her (asked…who am I kidding) that I wanted to take things to the next level. She said: “No, Brad, lets just continue as we are and see how things go. I’m not looking for a relationship right now”.

    I told her how frustrated I was that she jumped right into a relationship with some dude immediately after telling me that she was just looking for friends and had no intention of getting serious with anyone. Her response: “I succumbed to biology. He was very aggressive, and I gave in.” Life changing for me!

    It’s been about six months since that happened. I recently reconnected with her only to blow it again. It ended with a comment from her that “you’re so sweet Brad”. Later in the conversation followed with “I’m just trying to make friends. I don’t want anything serious”. I got mad/frustrated and told her that I’m tired of being sweet. A little more conversation and she ended things between us.

    This article really helps a lot. I’ve spent my whole life being the sweet guy. Always the friend, never the boyfriend. Of course there is always my marriage where I was mentally beaten to a pulp! Surprised I escaped with a trace of my testicles. Now, how do I climb this massive mountain? I’m 47 and recently divorced after a 20 year marriage to a feminist. My parents have a great 55 plus year marriage, but my dad is far from dominant. My mother is not (obviously) dominant either. The two really just seem to work in harmony. Problem is, I’ve lived my entire life with no example or experience being a man.

    • Jack Murphy Nov 28, 2017 @ 5:26

      Thanks for sharing your story. Good thing, it’s never too late to make a change. Keep reading. Click all the links in my articles. Absorb what has been written and you will find your path. Stick around!

  • Lisa Nelms Nov 30, 2017 @ 0:21

    While I want to argue against this article, as it goes against the fight woman face today in the workplace…however, this isn’t about the workplace…it’s about intimacy and relationships. I totally agree that I would never have married my husband if he wasn’t dominate and always respectfully taking the lead. It does appear be a biological fact from my perspective. Well done.

    • Brad Nov 30, 2017 @ 3:37

      It’s confidence v/s arrogance. I think that this article talks about men having confidence. The men that we are hearing about in the news are arrogant. I’m pretty sure that most confident men would agree that what these arrogant men are doing is wrong.

    • Jack Murphy Feb 11, 2018 @ 9:58

      Thank you. You are right, this is totally different from the workplace. And of course, engaging in a relationship like this is entirely consensual. Men have to offer this as a possibility and allow those women who appreciate it to join them. Live and let live. But living like this is probably better. Thanks for reading.

  • Rosío Corvo Dec 13, 2017 @ 1:45

    Women don’t desire to be dominated and subminissive.

  • ANGELA V Mar 6, 2018 @ 2:07

    Is there a DOMINANT male in here ??? Please. I am fucking starving for you.
    I am blonde , blue eyes , athletic body type , 5,7 .

  • Adene Voide May 28, 2018 @ 17:46

    I really liked this article, but as a woman I have to disagree. I’m 100% and have never had a submissive though in my life, but I do have a friend that is and I think this article would be perfect for her and her husband!

    Though to the commenter Dman, I really hate being choked and don’t respond to dominance from a man or even anyone, I love being the breadwinner and being in chatge.. So yes, while most women do like submission, I think it’s good to keep in mind that you might run into a woman who just isn’t, and if you do, don’t worry! Keep going, there’s a woman for you and a guy for her.

    I do think I’ll be using this article for ideas myself. (The ordering their food or drink for them has never worked for any of my friends or family, but I’m still going to try it for husband, even though we’re already togrther.) I think even though this is targeted towards men, I find it relatable, and will send it to my friend and her husband!

    • Jack Murphy Oct 26, 2018 @ 11:33

      Yep that’s what I preach: invite women to join you in your life, open the door for them, and if they accept – great. If not, good for them and best wishes. More power to you! I respect all choices.

  • DaysOfGame_Com Jul 2, 2018 @ 20:50

    Can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard, “I love how ROUGH you were” and/or requests to be even rougher… more choking, more spanking, fucking her harder.

    I’ve had exactly two requests for me to “go softer” (at least one of the girls had some kind of previous trauma), and about 100 for “more!, more!”

    Yes… AWALT.

  • Nickie SD Jul 12, 2018 @ 7:32

    Daamn this is hypnotising . I am a dominant woman but what i just read was really strong haha . But i dont think it works 100% bc there r some females who’ll be pissed from .. for example choosing the place or the food she gonna eat . Or making the Bj a reward , some will be like : ” are you F kidding me ?! and for u , Here s your reward get down lick my feet as*ho*e ! ” so the tips above will work only with the submissive and those who r neither dominant nor submissive . But not with a feminist or a dominant woman 😂 i believe . For me , i would accept to try this bc i like to explore and to live differently everytime but this doesnt mean he got absolute power over me i can make him feel like shit anytime . He cant be controlling for a long term bc some people have the ability to think ” out of the box ” which means above the dominance and sweet sour pleasure she gets from that kind of relationship . Personally i prefer to date a submissive guy ,idk but its super sweet

    • Jack Murphy Feb 16, 2019 @ 14:40

      feminists often want to be the most submissive of the bunch, in the bedroom of course.

  • Galvin Sep 15, 2018 @ 2:06

    Something inside of me move when i read this.This is real message for men. Do you have any tips on men wanting to take to first step on getting over his fear or nervousness of going over to a women, fear of being honest and fear of being harshly criticized or shame for wanting to get laid?

  • Mandy Oct 22, 2018 @ 21:18

    Woman here chiming in. I just want to say that this could not be more accurate. He’s literally spot on word for word. I found this article by googling “how to make my husband dominate me.” I’ve had countless talks with him letting him know it’s what I desperately want and that it’s okay and won’t make him a monster. I even explained to him how feminism has taken him so far from his natural role and that he will be so much happier if he just resumes his intended position. He is too scared I think. It’s been engrained in men for so long I sometimes worry it’s too late.

    I’m in a powerful position within my career and I hate it. I’d give anything to go back to the 1940’s and just bake cookies, suck cock, and keep my mouth shut. I don’t know how else to get this through to him. I’ve asked for arguments to be resolved by giving me a spanking, I’ve made rules up for myself, I’ve begged, hell I’ve even cornered him into taking a stand! I don’t want the control or power! I can’t take the pressure! I can’t handle the anxiety that overwhelms me when any decision is left up to me. Women aren’t made for this shit. We just aren’t.

    At this point I’m realizing my husband lacks the confidence and courage necessary to try. As a man in a squadron with all female leadership, and with an ex wife who uses his desire to spend time with his child as a means to control every aspect of his life I seriously believe my husband is beat down and near defeat. I’ve known him since childhood and he wasn’t always this way. He’s definitely an alpha through and through and those traits still shine through occasionally. He’s just sort of retired into this passive, ambition less, defeated place and I’d do anything to reignite his fire. Advice?

    • Jack Murphy Oct 26, 2018 @ 11:37

      I’ve been thinking about your question for a few days now. I wish I had a better answer for you. You need to get him some books, get him Rational Male, tell him to read all my posts in the Sex and Life category. Tell him to follow me on twitter and if he is really up for it:

      I offer direct one on one coaching for men who want to make big changes.

      Email me at jack@jackmurphylive.com for more information.

      The power of the feminine brainwashing is intense and sometimes people need a major jolt to come out of it.

      Unfortunately one of the key understandings I’ve discovered is “dominance can not be solicited.” But I think it can be induced, so I ask you:

      Have you done everything you can to maximize your femininity?

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