Quit Wasting Time: Change Yourself Before Worrying About the Rest

Lately, my mind is grappling with the biggest issues of the day. I sit down and write chapters on power structures and the ideologies which are meant to dismantle them. I chew over questions like, “Can one thing be more beautiful than the other?” or “Will the structural elements which gave birth to Trump remain in 2020?” And even, “Will feminists ever stop their march towards total cultural revolution?”

These may seem like heavy or advanced subjects. And they are. But I’ve earned it. My journey to this point began with a study of self-mastery. I learned how to take care of my body, my mind, and eventually my family. I expanded that mastery to my local community through countless hours of public service. And now I’m ready to tackle the issues which wrap themselves through our nation like tentacles and vines. They creep up from the floor of the individual and create a web which covers every aspect of our society. But, without the first steps of individual mastery, pondering issues of national importance would be masturbatory.

I don’t want to put anyone down, but most of you are not ready for this type of thinking.

Most men still need to master their own basics first: health, fitness, game, career, family life. Do these before you spend any time complaining about feminism or globalism getting you down.

Worrying about cultural and political problems without already achieving self-mastery is a total waste of time.

First, you have more pressing needs. Get your body right (see AJA Cortes). Get your mind right (see Gorilla Mindset). Get your game right (see Rollo Tomassi). Get your career right (See Jack Murphy). Do all of these things first before you spend any time worrying about elections, postmodern philosophy or the corrosive impact of the feminist overreach.

[READ: The Jack Murphy Basics: Three Fundamentals to Change Your Life Forever]

Stop pissing away your day complaining about things which are outside of your control.

jackmurphylive.comI’ve put in the time. I have three kids, a loving family, my health and a sustainable financial portfolio.  I’ve built buildings, communities, and even institutions. And at 41, I’m left with nothing else in front of me but the urge to change the world.

That’s what I’m doing with #DemocratToDeplorable. I’m setting the stage for change. I’m creating a space for more people to make the painful and difficult separation from one way of life to another. We’re making room on this side of the internal wall of America, and as more Deplorables find refuge in our world, I hope to give them a narrative they can follow to find strength for the future.

If you continue with self-improvement, consciously upping your game every day, eventually you too may reach a point where changing the world seems like the next logical step.

At some point you look around at those in power and realize they are softer than you are. You realize they may have lucked into their positions.You see their control on the world is tenuous. You realize they are nothing more than flawed human beings just like everyone else. 

That is the moment to seize.

I’m not saying everyone can be a world changer, but if you build yourself up, improve daily, and secure your future – one day changing the world will seem like a reasonable next step.

There are inspirations all over the place. People go from zero to game-changer in a matter of minutes. And many of them are just hollow shells filled with luck and timing.

But not us, when our moment presents itself, we will be oak trees, slowly growing but eventually becoming powerful, entrenched, and built to last.

I’m reaching this new point in life. Sometimes I am fearful and full of doubt. Sometimes I am insecure. I am not perfect. But when I accurately and honestly reflect on where I’ve been and where I’m going, the path forward is clear.


Some of you have been with me since the beginning in 2015.


Jack Murphy Live speaking at the 21 Convention in 2018.

You’ve seen the changes and the growth. You are on this journey with me. Together, we’re making this happen. And to the newer people, fear not, the ride is only beginning.

Look, I understand. This is hard. Changing yourself can seem like the hardest thing of all. We get stuck in ruts or get blinded to our true reality. Or maybe you just don’t even know what to do. And that’s ok. There’s a whole group of men who’ve already traveled these paths and left precise instructions. Click the links. Read what they have to say. There is no doubt their words will help you, they’ve helped me too.

Now you can use me as a guide as well. Think of me as the grizzled veteran on a young team. Take advantage of my hard-fought wisdom and level up more quickly than before.

Changing the world is going to take an army and you guys are part of my platoon.

Stick with me, support the book when it comes out, and let’s see what hell we can raise.

If you want to be like me one day: a physically and mentally strong leader, a family man, an entrepreneur, a writer and a thinker – then start with the basics – that’s where we all began, even me.

Thanks for reading, thank you for the support, and thank you for contributing to #DemocratToDeplorable!


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20 comments… add one
  • Dman Jul 12, 2017 @ 11:31

    Excellent and timely post. One of the most prominent features of our time is the incredible amount of distractions out there. I have found it helpful to think about anything that goes into your brain in two broad categories: information and entertainment.

    By information, I mean knowledge that is immediately actionable and that leads to near, medium, or long term results and benefits.

    Everything else is entertainment. Yes, everything. For example, most of the readers here support Trump, and he provides a daily source of entertainment for us, but it does nothing to benefit our lives if we’re honest with ourselves. I exclude from this, to some extent, people who go to rallies, or take some kind of physical action in support of our cause. But most of us, myself included, are just being entertained. Lenin famously said that religion is the opiate of the masses. I disagree. Today, media and entertainment are a fentanyl epidural for our entire body.

    Think about how so many sites and people are obsessed with TV dramas, TV and movie characters, what fictional people are doing, whether a series is being renewed, etc. People do this because their lives are otherwise banal. I’m not some international man of mystery (well sort of), but I have enough stuff going on in my life that the “lives” of fictional characters do not have much real estate in my brain.

    If you just start doing some of the things Jack writes about, you too will fill your life with real action, purpose, and meaning.

    • Jack Murphy Jul 12, 2017 @ 12:31

      I still get caught up in the info-tainment waste of time occasionally. I find myself scrolling too long on Twitter and feeling unproductive. Gotta keep the balance between entertainment (good in doses) and time wasting. Thanks for the comment and the support, Dman, you’ve been here since the beginning!!

  • Ethan Michael Carter Jul 12, 2017 @ 12:28

    This article is both well written, and acts as a great compass for the reader. It highlights the importance of growing from within BEFORE trying to change external issues.

    Too many people try and change the world before they’ve revolutionized themselves. Which leaves them nothing more than susceptible to life’s rigours, as opposed to having the emotional strength to instigate change in the world.

    I’m confident that, like this article, Jack and his new book will provide people with the tools and perspective to become game changers.

    Great article!

    • Jack Murphy Jul 12, 2017 @ 12:33

      Appreciate that Ethan, coming from you that means a lot.

      Building the internal self able to withstand the pressures of life make tackling the harder things much easier. It brings stamina, confidence, and capability. With those, approaching bigger “life” issues becomes more accessible. And let’s be honest, without self mastery, you have little credibility on big issues.

      Thanks for all the support and the great comments!

  • Greg H Jul 12, 2017 @ 13:22

    Really hits me right where i needed it as of late. I have been worrying about things out of my control and loosing focus on things in my control. Thanks for the reminder Jack and I hope you do change the world.

    • Jack Murphy Jul 12, 2017 @ 13:24

      Glad to hear it, man. I think lots of us get sucked into the day to day drama. It’s good to remember what’s most important. And man, with you guys behind me – we really can make a difference. Thanks for all the support!

      • Greg H Jul 12, 2017 @ 13:27

        Thanks Jack! I can’t wait to read your book!

  • tonythefisher Jul 12, 2017 @ 14:56

    “Take care of the Beam in your OWN eye, before dealing with the speck in your Brothers,…!”
    Jesus, The Christ
    (Matthew 7:5)

    I often reference this with myself when getting over my head with “World and National” issues and when trying to calm Family and friends over their zeal for media hyped changes,….! (Get your OWN shite together, before venturing upon someone else’s!).

  • anon1 Jul 12, 2017 @ 15:13

    very true! here’s to your continued success in this next arc man

    • Jack Murphy Jul 12, 2017 @ 15:14

      Thanks, a lot! I’d having nothing but a diary without you guys.

  • andyinsdca Jul 12, 2017 @ 15:33

    There’s a parallel to food, too. Steak & salad: “information” for the body. Cake: “entertainment” for the body.

    • Jack Murphy Jul 12, 2017 @ 15:35

      Hadn’t really considered it that way but you’re right. Infotainment and stressing about things out of your control are like the sugary carb poisons many of us eat. Small doses are fine, but bingeing is rotten. Thanks for reading.

  • Windwalker Jul 12, 2017 @ 18:39

    Are you atheist Jack? Curious you say nada about ones inner spiritual well being. Curious.

    • Jack Murphy Jul 13, 2017 @ 8:40

      I’ve tweeted plenty about the spiritual benefits of service. Nothing gives you more than giving to others.

  • Fickbowt Jul 13, 2017 @ 4:26
    • Jack Murphy Jul 13, 2017 @ 8:40

      Cultural Marxism today, the way I use it, refers to a relentless attack on every element of the existing power structures. It’s about subversion on every level. From toxic masculinity, to rape culture, to denial of bio genders, to academic preferences for women, career advantages for women, longer healthier lives for women…etc and so on. It includes not just women and attacking the power dynamics between them and men, but race and nationalist groups as well. There is an all out war on the existing power structure and it’s being waged on the individual, group, nation, and world. Marxism is inherently about power dynamics and this is what I mean.

      • Fickbowt Jul 13, 2017 @ 8:46

        That’s just identity politics.

      • Milton Devonair Jan 27, 2018 @ 22:37

        Herbert Marcuse is also from The Frankfort School. He is the father of “repressive tolerance” that has been taught to many generations of college kids since the 1960s. This is where all thought/ideas/words not liberal progressives won’t be allowed.
        Marcuse also, in his “eros and society” wrote about how breaking all sexual norms to be a key component of toppling the western status quo.
        This is were homosexuality, lowering the age of consent for children/adult s*xual relationships, group marriages, etc. all come to the forefront of the debate for whoever is the standard bearer of the liberal progressives…and that would be the democrat party after 1972.

        Obozo is a liberal progressive, thus we saw the herbert marcuse in action.

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